What is your definition of leadership?

Is it leadership from the front by example?

or leadership by serving others?

leadership by focusing on strengths more than weaknesses

which one resonates with you????

Not an easy thing to do

There are four positions we can take towards others in both our professional and personal relationships.

The most effective according Dr Stephen Covey is the "win-win" paradigm.  This, however, is not an easy

thing to do as we are conditioned though out our lives to compare ourselves with others and compete until 

someone wins and someone loses. What do you do to cultivate the 'win-win' position?? 

You cannot control everything in your life focus on those you can

Focus on the things you can influence then you will expand your knowledge and experience and build trustworthiness.  Focus on your circle of influence and not your circle of concern.  Stephen Covey

Perspective taking more effective than empathy

Daniel Pink:

The research shows that perspective-taking and empathy are similar -- but not quite the same. Empathy is more about understanding the other person's emotions -- what he or she is feeling. Perspective-taking is more about understanding the other person's interests -- what he or she is thinking. Both are important. But the research shows that perspective-taking is slightly more effective in moving others. So while leaders should work to understand what others are feeling, they should also work to understand what they're thinking -- the reasons they might be opposed to doing something.

What do I need to develop to move forward in this situation?

Framework for thinking before acting

Mind the gap - 

We need four things to successfully accomplish a task

1.   the skills to do it- technical skills

2.  the knowledge 

3.  the will - the desire, passion and motivation 

4.  the capacity - the mental, emotional, or physical ability 

5.  the emotional intelligence - the ability to be aware of, manage and express one's emotions and be aware of those of others

So next time ask yourself what gap do I have to handle this situation?  Is it a skill gap? A knowledge gap?  …….

Expecting people to do things because you said so

Leading based control leads to resistance and develops fear as the way to maintain control. This does not result in as much innovation as leading based on trust, freedom and the development of responsibility.. is it harder to do?

Ceo's list conflict management skills as highest on their list for coaching needs.  These are followed by listening skills, sharing leadership, planning and mentoring, communication and then team building. Read more about it.